You have met someone that you really like. She is attractive, funny, and has a lot in common with you. You would like a relationship with her, but does she want one with you? If she does not want a relationship with you now, is it worth waiting to see if she will want one in the future? Read on to learn seven signs that your crush does not want a relationship with you right now.
She tells you
The first and foremost sign that she does not want a relationship with you is if she tells you so. She may initiate a conversation in which she makes it clear that she is not looking for a relationship with anyone at the moment. This may be her response to you when you confess your feelings for her.
While it is best to take her at her word, this does not necessarily mean that she might not change her mind later.
It is up to you to assess if it is worth waiting. You may want to listen for the reason. She might be very busy with work or other projects. She may have just ended a bad relationship and needs time to heal. It could be that she is simply not attracted to you in that way.
If it seems like there might be a chance in the future, and if this is someone that you are really attracted to, then waiting might be a good choice. Just remember, her no means no. If you are not ready to risk her never changing her mind, then it is best to move on.
She says that you are like a sibling to her
This is a clear sign that she does not see you in “that way,” and it is unlikely to change in the future. You are a good friend to her, and she values your company, but she does not want a romantic relationship with you.
If this happens, you must decide if you can live with this arrangement. You will need to put your romantic feelings for her aside. Is that possible for you? Will that be too painful?
If you can handle a relationship on those terms, by all means, enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex. It may become an issue if either of you does develop another romantic interest, but you can cross that bridge when you get to it.
She does not talk to her friends about you
It is common for women to want to talk to their friends about the current love of their life. They want to share their feelings or ask for advice. If you have been seeing her for any length of time, and she is serious about you, it is almost certain that she will tell her friends about you.
If she has not told her friends about you, it is a clear sign that something is wrong. Now, there may be a good reason for her silence, but chances are, she is not really interested in a relationship with you at this time.
It could be that you are just a casual fling to her. It could be that there is something about seeing you that she finds embarrassing. Of course, it could be that she is just a very private person, but if that is the case, she will be private about many areas of her life, not just about you.
You might want to question her about why she is not telling her friends about you, but that is no guarantee that you will get an honest answer. In this case, it is best to be cautious and assume that she is at least dubious of a relationship with you. If you continue seeing her, be sure to protect your heart.
She never initiates contact with you
Some women do not want to come right out and say they do not want a relationship with you. It can be hard to do. She might want to avoid being rude or hurting your feelings. If this is the case, she may interact with you if you initiate contact by calling or texting. This does not mean that she really wants to spend time with you.
Now, there are some women who are still traditional enough to let you make the first move, particularly early on. Yet, as time goes on, this should change, especially if she wants a relationship with you.
One way to test this is to not contact her for a bit and see if she contacts you. If she does not after a bit of time, try calling or texting her. Does she ask about where you were and why you did not call or text? Does she seem at all anxious that she has not heard from you? If not, it is a very good sign that she does not want a relationship with you.
At this point, your best bet is to let her be. See what she does. If she does not get in touch with you, perhaps it is time to let your hopes of a relationship go.
She never has time for you
Another sign that she does not want a relationship with you is if she never has any time for you. She may always be busy when you want to get together, or she is always running off to do something when you want to talk.
Many people do lead very active lives, and it can be hard to find time for things like relationships. Still, if a relationship with you is a priority for her, she will make time to nurture it.
It could be that she is verbally telling you that she does want a relationship with you, but in this case, actions speak louder than words. She may be conflicted. It is not uncommon for people to have mixed feelings about relationships. Consciously, she may think she wants one, but on an unconscious level, she has doubts.
In this case, it is probably best to prioritize your own work and pastimes. Don’t go out of your way to spend time with her. See what happens. This could bring you closer together. People have different needs when it comes to intimacy. If she is a person who naturally wants more freedom, your having a life outside the relationship might make you more attractive to her.
On the other hand, it is also possible that the two of you will drift apart. If this happens, perhaps it was for the best.
She is always talking about her ex
If she is constantly talking about her ex, this is a tricky situation. It is especially tricky if she complains about them and tells you everything that they did to hurt or upset her. She may even compare you favorably to them and emphatically tell you how much she wants a relationship with you.
Even so, this is a sign that she is not over her last relationship and is probably not ready for one with you. Hurt, anger, or even hatred are emotions that form bonds. In some ways, these bonds are even stronger than love, and they can also be the result of love turned sour.
While this can be a red flag even if she is no longer in contact with her ex, it is even worse if she is. You will want to go slowly, even if she pushes you to move things along faster. She needs to heal from her last relationship, and she is not ready for one with you, no matter what she says.
Healing takes time. When you are with her, try to steer the conversation to your relationship and away from her ex. Resist the temptation to be flattered by favorable comparisons with her ex. If you move forward now, there will be three people in any relationship you have with her.
She does not want to be seen with you
A clear sign that she is not interested in a real relationship with you is if she never seems to want to be seen with you. She does not invite you to social events in which it customary to bring a date. She never brings you around when she is with other people or invite you to meet her parents or family.
If nothing else, this is a sign that something is wrong. It is possible that it is not about her desire to be in a relationship with you. It could be that the two of you are from different ethnic groups or social classes, but in this case, the reason would be clear and it is still something that will need to be addressed at some point.
You could confront her about this, but she may not be honest with you. Try inviting her to meet your family or friends or inviting her to be your date at a social event. See how she responds. This may open the door to a conversation about what she wants and whether she really wants a relationship with you.
